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  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Yeah tell me about it, its anniversary next week and exactly the same will be happening so i wont get to see her then either :(, but im sure we will make up for it when were both qualified lol
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    He completely over-reacted. He was doing trout so I asked him to do some white sauce and he ruined it, it was really thick and lumpy. So I moaned a little bit and he was like 'fine, forget it, i'll throw it all away.' I asked him not to but he did anyway. He's got a really bad temper on him, I remember telling you how possessive and jealous he is as well.

    Aww Dan :( I know what that feels like, this is the first time we've spent Valentines together, it was really hard the 4 years before (or was it 3 :? )

    How many years have you been together now?
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Sounds unhealthy to me Gem!! :shock: You seem like an alright sorta gal to :-)
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Ooh Paul :wink:

    :P

    You wouldn't believe some of the things he's put me through. For example he's cheated on me twice (once with my best friend then the second time with his best friends girfriend)! It's probably more than that actually but those are the ones I know about.

    I've left him so many times but we've ended up just getting back together. One time I did get a new boyfriend but he finished it after 5 days :shock:

    Now I just find it hard to meet new people because I'm either at work and when I do go out I go out with Ben.

    I'm sorry this is so off-topic from the brit awards.

    Gem
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Hey there Gem,

    Dont worry, you were not that far off topic from the Brit awards....

    Your b/f just won the "Brat" awards!!!

    You should have slapped him round the head with the trout! :lol:

  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    That would have been so funny, if only I was brave enough!
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Flippin Heck Gem, He sounds like a right prat :shock:

    Sorry but no one should have put up with being cheated on that many times, you deserve a lot better :)
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Took all my strength to knock something similar on the head.

    Don't mistake control for love.
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Once a cheater, always a cheater.

    He got away with it once, then twice - probably thinks he can do what he likes now and you'll still take him back.

    Sounds like you would be much better without him. It's hard to get the guts to do it and be on your own, but believe me no-one should put up with that and you shouldn't settle for second best.

    Whilst you waste time with someone who treats you bad, you are stopping yourself from meeting someone who treats you like a princess.

    Helen is right though - it does take a lot of strength and you need to decide to do it yourself, then do it and not look back.
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Yes - all true.

    Once the decision was made, I had no choice but to go through with it.

    Took months to sort out - but my friends and family were great.

    And despite how we sometimes moan about them, the police were wonderful.

    Edit: Sorry, didn't watch the BRITs
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    You wouldn't believe some of the things he's put me through. For example he's cheated on me twice (once with my best friend then the second time with his best friends girfriend)!

    Hey Gem, sorry mate but it's an unwritten rule, your best mate don't sleep with your bloke!!!!! :evil: She isn't much of a mate!!!! And your bloke shouldn't be sleeping with his best mates girl...
    Poor you, Paul22 is right, you sound a good person who deserves better.
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Thanks for all your replies guys, you've all been really nice :)

    I haven't spoken to that 'friend' for 3 years now! It's a shame cos she was a good friend but I couldn't deal with that.

    The cheating was such a long time ago though, I think we're both over it. But believe me if some lovely young man came to sweep me off my feet I don't think I'd be able to say no :shock:

    I probably could do better, but this is the way it's gone and I think I'm going to have to stick with it.

    Thanks to everyone for all your support :)

    Gem
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    You're never truly over it as that trust has been eroded away.

    Don't be so accepting to your fate, it's not 'probably could do better' you CAN do better and you DON'T have to stick with it.

    Your self-esteem has taken a battering and it will only get better away from a relationship that appears to have pressed the self-destruct button a long time ago.
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    Gem7321 wrote:
    It's probably more than that actually but those are the ones I know about.

    Once was bad enough, twice terrible!

    It sounds to me like he's worn away your self confidence and you believe that's all you deserve and so just put up with it.

    I'm saying that because I went through the same at your age and I am sure many others here have too.

    You know you can do better and that you do deserve better, but I know it's hard to get the strength to walk away when your confidence has been worn away.

    Trust me though, you'll be so much happier in the end and you'd look back and wonder why on earth you didn't do it sooner.

    You only live once so why waste precious time with someone who makes you unhappy and clearly doesn't deserve you??
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    As PP22 says, lots of people on this forum have had some experience of heartbreak and it's not a competition to see who has been hurt the most. I walked away from a marriage and a decent roof over my head because I wanted more from life and didn't want to just accept that was how things were going to be, especially with a husband who treated me the way he did. It's just having the courage to do it..
    Just keep believing in yourself sweetheart.
  • System
    System Posts: 100,534 🤖 Admin 🤖
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    I was cheated on in the past, and it never even entered my head to consider forgiveness. It will never end after they get away with it once in my opinion, if its in you its in you

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