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Gem7321 wrote:

As in... f*** buddys? :?

All right until one of you changes their mind...

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Sounds like that could get pretty messy! There's usually one side that ends up wanting more I reckon!

TF - who are you talking to? What the heck are you on about?! :-)

*edit*: you posted same time as I, not referring to that post..

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Most of my buddies are fellas and that's where it stays. The odd naughty thought creeps into my mind admittedly but I lost a very good friend because we took it "one step" further, then we broke up as "lovers". I think you are right in a way Nigel, lots of people can't commit but I can say hand on heart, I would never do that to my hubby no matter how tempted I feel. (OK, pass the sick bucket) :roll:

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Paul22 wrote:

Helen, you alright?

Are you sure you are alright H?

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I feel that society guides the way you think about things and the way you react to opportunities.

If you are happy with a friendship, as it is then no probs.

But involvement includes trust, commitment, respect, vulnerability, self-sacrifice, etc.

And I treat one-night stands as 'mini-relationships'...

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And very true, too!

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Through most of my life my friends have been guys. My best friend at school was a guy, and he had an obsession with me since year 8, then in year 11 he realised nothing was going to happen so moved on, but when he did our friendship disappeared.

Since I left school I've seen a lot of his older brother because we catch the same bus to and from work, so we see each other every day and became good friends, yesterday he told me he loves me, and it's so awkward cos I have to see him on the bus home tonight :oops:

Also while I was at school a guy called matt used to get bullied but I never had a problem with him, we weren't best of friends but I was nice to him and we would sit together in graphics, we havent seen each other for like 2 years but on monday he told me he loves me. Freak.

The others include all of the chefs where I used to work as a waitress while I was at school, the guy I used to sit next to on the school bus, we're still friends now though which is nice but that's all the guys I've had friendships with and it's all turned out wrong.

I really don't want to lose this guy as a friend but he's really not my type and I've never thought of him as anything other than a friend. How am I gonna tell him?!

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And Wrangler, you made a commitment, gained a 'merging of minds', and I hope you are now happier than you were before...

Edit. When you are younger, everything is more 'intense'. Their feelings are probably genuine, Gem.

And for those that get 'crushes' - it stays for life, guys... :twisted:

(combination of PhenyEthylAmine and other hormones - genetically-based...)

Edit but for different people throughout life...

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Be honest - much better in the long-term.

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He'd hate you more if you gave him hope when there was none.

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If he hates you then he isn't much of a friend, he must realise you can't force people into liking or loving you, that's creepy.

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Gem7321 wrote:

I think he is a bit weird, if he's anything like his brother anyway, thats what makes me want to get it over with quickly and hope he never mentions it again.

What do I do if he wants a reason why not? Should I just tell him cos I don't want to lose him as a friend? And what shall I say if that isn't a good enough excuse for him?

Gem this isnt a life decision or a job interview, you dont owe him anything

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Agree. It's mutual negotiation.

Friend should be true friend willing to accept things on your terms. - no strings...

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19051984 wrote:

it's OK looking good girls, but you gotta have the chatter to go with it.

Wow! J - I tick both boxes, what are you waiting for?

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Good luck, Gem!

Right! Now, where's Rae and Katie?